Friday, March 30, 2007

COME on moms

I know some of you will say "come on now:move on already!".
But every know and then, something comes acrossed my radar that reminds me of the constant battle that I endure with the mother of my children.
The following, is such and instant.
And once again, thank you for enduring my rant.

I was watching the news this evening and saw a story that tore me in two.
It was about an American Soldier returning from his latest tour of duty, and how he surprised his 6 year old son.

The boy was at school, when his father walked in, wearing his desert cammies, and said "hey bud".
The little boy immeditately bolted from his chair, dashed acrossed the classroom, and jumped into his daddies open arms.

The commentator stated that it took the little boy several minutes to stop crying and introduced his father to the class, who had been writing the soldier letters while he served in Iraq.

My first reaction was how heart warming of a scene this was.
A little boys reunion with his father who had been away for almost a year fighting in a war.

My second reaction was that of how the mothers of divorced families tend to treat the father when children are involved.

In our society, a boy and his fathers bond seems traditionally sacred, for lack of a better term.
It's our 'duty' as well as our honor to pass down knowledge to our sons in hopes of helping them grow into a man.

Many times, however, a mother will do what she can to deter, downplay, or even replace that role of a father to his child.

COME ON!
GROW UP WOMEN!

Not all men are bad dads.
There are those of us who do the best we can with what not only society deals us (archaic laws concerning parental rights), but with what you deal us.

You want to manipulate, deligate, regulate, and sometimes even dissapate the relationship that we try to continue with our children after you decide to "change things up".

So, the next time you want to be a dominating b*tch and keep a child from having the type of relationship with their father that the CHILD deserves, remember that scene of a little boy being surprised by his DADDY, who came to his classroom, and get over yourself.

2 comments:

Sunny said...

I agree- I was one of those moms who hated the ex's guts due to abuse- but I never tried to stop him from having a relationship with his kids.
I wouldn't let anyone say bad things about him either in front of them. I was so afraid they would grow up seeing themselves as bad because everyone thought their dad was. I always told them that he DID have good qualities(such as being a hard worker- he just chose to blow all his cash on drugs and drinks for his buddies all weekend instead of paying bills for his family and buying food and spending time with them) and that they inherited all the GOOD things of their dad and he kept all the bad.
Unfortunatly he wasn't one of the "good guys" who tried to have a relationship with his kids. Even on the RARE days he did get them to spend the night/weekend with him- he would invaribly leave them with his new wife and still go out partying with his "buds" all weekend. I thank god that "Mama Mickey" was there for them and loved them almost as much as I did and do. They found out soon enough when they were old enough to form their own opinions of him what he was really like. And to this day they refer to him as their "sperm donor"(to his face no less) and to his 2nd wife as Mama Mickey.
I agree most women don't give the dads a fair shake when it comes to their kids- but they are hurting no one but the very ones they should be trying to protect- their precious kids. And as you said- not all men are the responsible parents they should be.
God help the abandoned babies-the mistreated responsible dads- and the moms trying to deal with the deadbeat dads.
God bless em every one.

Rant over.
;-P

Sunny said...

Hey Ray-Ray

Just a quick note to let you know I have a recipe blog now to share some easy to make recipes. The addie is www.ezrecipes.blogspot.com

When you gonna post again?
;-)