We've all been there:we meet someone we like only to find that they want to be "just friends".
It's like the bane of all men. I can't speak for the women as if this is also the case, but for a guy, when a girl tells you that she feels you are just the "best friend" a little part of us dies.
That's they way it's been for me pretty much most of my dating life.
There were several girls I got along with that I could see myself having a more-than-friends relation with. But as is my curse, I seem to make a better friend than lover.
As if my height, or lack there of, doesn't fuel my complex on a daily basis, but then I have to contend that most every woman I am attracted to, treats me like "the gay friend", or "they guy they don't feel attracted to in that way". oy
(And as a side note, no:I am not I repeat not gay. Not that there's anything wrong with that.)
So it seems that I am destined to be the friend to all women.
At least my kids think I'm cool.
Sunday, October 30, 2005
Signs You're Living in 2005
1. You accidentally enter your password on the microwave.
2. You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years.
3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of five.
4. You e-mail the person who works at the desk next to you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends and family is that they don't have e-mail addresses.
6. You go home after a long day at work, you still answer the phone in a business manner.
7. You make phone calls from home, you accidentally dial "9" to get an outside line.
8. You've sat at the same desk for four years and worked for three different companies.
10. You learn about your redundancy on the
11. Your boss doesn't have the ability to do your job.
12. You pull up in your own driveway and use your cell phone to see if anyone is home to help you carry in the groceries.
13. Every commercial on television has a web site at the bottom of the screen.
14. Leaving the house without your cell phone, which you didn't have the
first 20 or 30 (or 60) years of your life, is now a cause for panic and you turn around to go and get it.
15. You get up in the morning and go on line before getting your coffee.
16. You start tilting your head sideways to smile. >:)
17. You're reading this and nodding and laughing.
18. Even worse, you know exactly to whom you are going to forward this
message.
19. You are too busy to notice there was no #9 on this list.
20. You actually scrolled back up to check that there wasn't a #9 on this list.
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
Tragedy v. comedy
Ok, so, overall this is a very tragic story.
A co-worker knew this couple and knows a bit of the "untold truth".
Basically, they both had health issues and had decided to end their lives together.
They first tossed their Pomeranian over the bridge, and then themselves.
What I want to know is what what right did they have to make this decision for the doggie?
I know pets love their owners and have been known to do tremendous feats in the face of their masters adversity. But this was a poof-ball!
It's main concern was looking cute and eating! (I should know because my mother has one)
Picture it:the couple takes a trip with their pooch riding in it's carrier. I'm sure the pup was thinking "OH BOY OH BOY! WE"RE GOING FOR A RIDE!!" (assuming that dogs yell to themselves when they think), only to end up thinking "why do these people think I can fly?".
I only hope that dogs can speak English in Heaven so this one can go off on these two "loving owners" that decided their pet's time was up as well as their own!
in times of adversity, we need to remember humour
A co-worker knew this couple and knows a bit of the "untold truth".
Basically, they both had health issues and had decided to end their lives together.
They first tossed their Pomeranian over the bridge, and then themselves.
What I want to know is what what right did they have to make this decision for the doggie?
I know pets love their owners and have been known to do tremendous feats in the face of their masters adversity. But this was a poof-ball!
It's main concern was looking cute and eating! (I should know because my mother has one)
Picture it:the couple takes a trip with their pooch riding in it's carrier. I'm sure the pup was thinking "OH BOY OH BOY! WE"RE GOING FOR A RIDE!!" (assuming that dogs yell to themselves when they think), only to end up thinking "why do these people think I can fly?".
I only hope that dogs can speak English in Heaven so this one can go off on these two "loving owners" that decided their pet's time was up as well as their own!
in times of adversity, we need to remember humour
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
Me with my favorite boys!
Me with my favorite boys!
Originally uploaded by bat-a-ray.
These are the reasons I can continue on in the face of adversity.
Monday, October 24, 2005
Kids vs. Respect
This weekend, my youngest sons soccer coach held a pizza party for an undefeated season.
Afterwards, we all played "extreme soccer". Basically, there was no marked field where we were, so there was no "out" and we used picnic tables for goals.
At one point, I heard one of the children saying "you suck!" and to another "you suck!".
I commented, "Noone sucks", in an attempt to quash this type of talk during the game.
His response to me was, "YOU suck". oy.
Later, as I drove the ball down field, which in retrospect, I wish I were driving it using some sort of vehicle, (yea......I'm a bit out of shape), an opposing player took the it from me and dashed the other way. Now, I'm not upset by any means. These kids have been playing soccer twice a year for several years. It was a good move on his part! Of course, the coach (who happens to be a friend of mine) started laughing saying "OOOOOOOOOOh....................YOU got SCHOOLED". That "you suck" kid chimed in as well.
Now, when I was growing up, I cannot remember a child talking to an adult in this manner, let alone being on a first name basis with said adult. But nowadays, it's all the rage for a child to address a friends parent by first name.
Some will argue that perhaps, today's children feel more at ease calling an adult by their first name, whereas I feel it is disrespectful as I was brought up addressing adults by their last names.
I can remember having this same conversation with my now ex-wife and how she took the side of "it's no big deal". There's a reason she's my ex.
So what do you think?
IS it no big deal that we let our children address other parents by first names?
AM I just living in the past?
Will our heroes escape the diabolical trap that's ensnared them?(sorry........childhood flashback).
Afterwards, we all played "extreme soccer". Basically, there was no marked field where we were, so there was no "out" and we used picnic tables for goals.
At one point, I heard one of the children saying "you suck!" and to another "you suck!".
I commented, "Noone sucks", in an attempt to quash this type of talk during the game.
His response to me was, "YOU suck". oy.
Later, as I drove the ball down field, which in retrospect, I wish I were driving it using some sort of vehicle, (yea......I'm a bit out of shape), an opposing player took the it from me and dashed the other way. Now, I'm not upset by any means. These kids have been playing soccer twice a year for several years. It was a good move on his part! Of course, the coach (who happens to be a friend of mine) started laughing saying "OOOOOOOOOOh....................YOU got SCHOOLED". That "you suck" kid chimed in as well.
Now, when I was growing up, I cannot remember a child talking to an adult in this manner, let alone being on a first name basis with said adult. But nowadays, it's all the rage for a child to address a friends parent by first name.
Some will argue that perhaps, today's children feel more at ease calling an adult by their first name, whereas I feel it is disrespectful as I was brought up addressing adults by their last names.
I can remember having this same conversation with my now ex-wife and how she took the side of "it's no big deal". There's a reason she's my ex.
So what do you think?
IS it no big deal that we let our children address other parents by first names?
AM I just living in the past?
Will our heroes escape the diabolical trap that's ensnared them?(sorry........childhood flashback).
Saturday, October 22, 2005
Children
Something has been working at my brain and I thought it was time to let it out.
My topic:the innocence of children. OR more specific, the absence of innocence.
I remember when I was growing up, how much fun I had being a kid.
You never heard of child abductions, child pornography, or teenage pregnancies.
Either it wasn't prevalent, or it was kept more from children than it is nowadays.
It seems that whenever you turn around, there's a story about a 13 year old girl having an abortion, or someone's 8 year old was abducted.
What has happened?
Somewhere along the line, somebody had the idea that we had to protect our children in a different way:telling them that the world is a sick place and expose them to all sorts of evils in an attempt to keep them from it. But it backfired.
Kids are having sex earlier and earlier.
Kids are getting busted for crimes not only shouldn't be committed at all, but are usually 'reserved' for adults.
In some single parent families, the child is expected to help raise younger siblings because the parent is too busy, whether it be working or feeling sorry for themselves, or too lazy to take care of multiple children.
For some reason, we feel our children have to 'grow up and face facts'.
Some of the examples parents set for children are just way out of line. For example, I remember hearing a story of a woman that filed a sexual harassment suit against a six year old boy because he kissed her little girl on the cheek one day during Kindergarten. Her reason was that her daughter didn't want to be kissed. Well no duh! EVERY little kid doesn't want to get cooties!! But is there really a need to file a lawsuit? What kind of tone is this woman setting for her daughter? Maybe I'm getting off topic a bit.
I fear for the future based on how we are forcing our children to become adults w/o allowing them to experience just being a kid.
I for one continue to embrace my own childhood and help my children experience theirs.
My topic:the innocence of children. OR more specific, the absence of innocence.
I remember when I was growing up, how much fun I had being a kid.
You never heard of child abductions, child pornography, or teenage pregnancies.
Either it wasn't prevalent, or it was kept more from children than it is nowadays.
It seems that whenever you turn around, there's a story about a 13 year old girl having an abortion, or someone's 8 year old was abducted.
What has happened?
Somewhere along the line, somebody had the idea that we had to protect our children in a different way:telling them that the world is a sick place and expose them to all sorts of evils in an attempt to keep them from it. But it backfired.
Kids are having sex earlier and earlier.
Kids are getting busted for crimes not only shouldn't be committed at all, but are usually 'reserved' for adults.
In some single parent families, the child is expected to help raise younger siblings because the parent is too busy, whether it be working or feeling sorry for themselves, or too lazy to take care of multiple children.
For some reason, we feel our children have to 'grow up and face facts'.
Some of the examples parents set for children are just way out of line. For example, I remember hearing a story of a woman that filed a sexual harassment suit against a six year old boy because he kissed her little girl on the cheek one day during Kindergarten. Her reason was that her daughter didn't want to be kissed. Well no duh! EVERY little kid doesn't want to get cooties!! But is there really a need to file a lawsuit? What kind of tone is this woman setting for her daughter? Maybe I'm getting off topic a bit.
I fear for the future based on how we are forcing our children to become adults w/o allowing them to experience just being a kid.
I for one continue to embrace my own childhood and help my children experience theirs.
Thursday, October 20, 2005
Monday, October 17, 2005
When is it ok to 'move on'
Here's an interesting question:when is it ok/expected to realize that you don't get to raise your children in a full-time family situation, and start living for yourself?
Five years ago, after my divorce, I chose to keep the house my boys had lived in for four years under the premise that I'd keep some familiarity for them after they were taken to another state.
Now, most would say that this was unnecessisary, but for whatever reason, it's what I did.
For the following five years, I chose not to date, not to associate with new people, and not pursue a few options that arose. All of which was influenced by what had occured with my now ex-wife.
The part that makes sense, I assume, is that I gave up a lot of personal wants in an effort to save all the money I could so when I did get my kids, I'd be able to spend it on them, i.e. going out to eat once in a while, going to movies, taking trips. Even though I wasn't able to save a lot, which was not because I was splurging on myself, but from the lack of money I was bringing home, I was able to do somethings with/for my children.
Now it's five years later, I've passed on a chance to get married and move to Southern Wisconsin, only fulfilling one vice, and basically stayed where I am now that my children are back in the same town. But did I make the right choice?
Now that I'm pushing 40, I find myself wondering a LOT about where the last five, hell TEN years have gone. I wanted to do so much.
I wanted a family, (kids AND a wife), I wanted to be comfortable income wise, hell I wanted a Harley by the time I was 35 and I probably could have done it, but I chose to live for my children, even though I only got them part time, instead of doing for myself.
I was reminded of my monetary situation the other day when I went shopping with my boys and my eldest wanted a toy. Cool toy too. But, because of a shortage of funds, which is pretty much the norm for me, I had to say "no". And while he understood why, he still teared up. But I couldn't be certain if he was upset because I couldn't get it for him (which by the way, he pointed out that it was for both he AND his brother...........he's such a good kid!), or because he was upset about the lack of money. As I said, he's a good kid BUT also a smart kid. He understands about child support and how I pay it, and his mother spends it...............not always on them (the boys).
So when do I realize that I have a part-time family and begin to attempt to live for myself and 'not' so much for my children?
It's like I have to realize that my life is not, nor will be that of normal people due to the fact that I love my children TOO much combined with my allowing my ex to always get/keep me down.
*I fell like this has become a incoherant rambling of thoughts so if you comment, be gentle! lol
Five years ago, after my divorce, I chose to keep the house my boys had lived in for four years under the premise that I'd keep some familiarity for them after they were taken to another state.
Now, most would say that this was unnecessisary, but for whatever reason, it's what I did.
For the following five years, I chose not to date, not to associate with new people, and not pursue a few options that arose. All of which was influenced by what had occured with my now ex-wife.
The part that makes sense, I assume, is that I gave up a lot of personal wants in an effort to save all the money I could so when I did get my kids, I'd be able to spend it on them, i.e. going out to eat once in a while, going to movies, taking trips. Even though I wasn't able to save a lot, which was not because I was splurging on myself, but from the lack of money I was bringing home, I was able to do somethings with/for my children.
Now it's five years later, I've passed on a chance to get married and move to Southern Wisconsin, only fulfilling one vice, and basically stayed where I am now that my children are back in the same town. But did I make the right choice?
Now that I'm pushing 40, I find myself wondering a LOT about where the last five, hell TEN years have gone. I wanted to do so much.
I wanted a family, (kids AND a wife), I wanted to be comfortable income wise, hell I wanted a Harley by the time I was 35 and I probably could have done it, but I chose to live for my children, even though I only got them part time, instead of doing for myself.
I was reminded of my monetary situation the other day when I went shopping with my boys and my eldest wanted a toy. Cool toy too. But, because of a shortage of funds, which is pretty much the norm for me, I had to say "no". And while he understood why, he still teared up. But I couldn't be certain if he was upset because I couldn't get it for him (which by the way, he pointed out that it was for both he AND his brother...........he's such a good kid!), or because he was upset about the lack of money. As I said, he's a good kid BUT also a smart kid. He understands about child support and how I pay it, and his mother spends it...............not always on them (the boys).
So when do I realize that I have a part-time family and begin to attempt to live for myself and 'not' so much for my children?
It's like I have to realize that my life is not, nor will be that of normal people due to the fact that I love my children TOO much combined with my allowing my ex to always get/keep me down.
*I fell like this has become a incoherant rambling of thoughts so if you comment, be gentle! lol
Sunday, October 16, 2005
Free Porn
This is actually a gif that a friend sent me, but I can't animate it on here.Just use your imagination
Monday, October 10, 2005
Gator-guzzling python comes to messy end
The pythons last words were said to have been "I sssssssssshoulda had a V-8!"
Saturday, October 08, 2005
Car for doggies.
WAKO, Japan - Honda Motor Co. has designed a car that's friendly for dogs — part of the Japanese automaker's ongoing effort to create vehicles that are easy to use and comfortable to ride in.
Why can't the U.S. come up with ideas like this??
Btw:check out the look on the pooch in the glovebox.
For more on this story, go to http://msnbc.msn.com/id/9599456/
Torn
Since my divorce over five years ago, I've been entered, (against my will and better judgement) in a battle over my children. More specifically, how they act towards me when they are with their mother.
To be even more precise, when we attend events the boys are involved in, if they are with her, she does not allow them to come over and say "hi" or get a hug. However, when they are with me, I encourage them to go over and talk to her and/or her husband. This has been going on since the onset.
Her excuse/reason has been, according to the boys, that I didn't allow them to come to her.
Now, I'll admit, perhaps in the first year or so after our divorce, I may have let my negative feelings override my better judgement and probably took the "f*ck her" attitude when I had my boys (not that I don't still feel that way, I just don't act upon it", but I've been more than accomodating when it comes to promoting their going over to her.
One would think, that after five years, and now being in a relationship, she would get over it and quite trying to turn my children against me/keep them from me in petty ways. It's gotten to the point where my oldest son won't even ask because "they'll probably just say no anyway".
I understand that in the end it doesn't even matter and that above all else I need to be the bigger parent here. But that doesn't allieviate the hurt feelings on my part.
Just think about it:to be at an event and have one's own child walk by them without as much as a 'hiya'. Compound that with the feelings one's ex already promotes and WHAMMO. ISSUES.
Sucks.
To be even more precise, when we attend events the boys are involved in, if they are with her, she does not allow them to come over and say "hi" or get a hug. However, when they are with me, I encourage them to go over and talk to her and/or her husband. This has been going on since the onset.
Her excuse/reason has been, according to the boys, that I didn't allow them to come to her.
Now, I'll admit, perhaps in the first year or so after our divorce, I may have let my negative feelings override my better judgement and probably took the "f*ck her" attitude when I had my boys (not that I don't still feel that way, I just don't act upon it", but I've been more than accomodating when it comes to promoting their going over to her.
One would think, that after five years, and now being in a relationship, she would get over it and quite trying to turn my children against me/keep them from me in petty ways. It's gotten to the point where my oldest son won't even ask because "they'll probably just say no anyway".
I understand that in the end it doesn't even matter and that above all else I need to be the bigger parent here. But that doesn't allieviate the hurt feelings on my part.
Just think about it:to be at an event and have one's own child walk by them without as much as a 'hiya'. Compound that with the feelings one's ex already promotes and WHAMMO. ISSUES.
Sucks.
Wednesday, October 05, 2005
EVERYone should have an ex-wife....................
I say ex-wife in jest because my co-worker who is female, considers her b/f's ex-wife to be her's as well due to the sh*t she pulls.
Now, for my rant on my ex:
I've been divorced since 2000 and my ex-wife treats me with the same disrespect and ill-regard as she did back then.
To recap:she moved 10 hours away with our children and married the guy (twice her age) she met online. Since then she's considered him the boys father and created a role for me as the big-brother.
I, like a good friend of mine, will accomodate the ex when it comes to the children, and never expect anything in return (basically because one would be expecting for quite some time).
If she wants me to take them when I'm not scheduled to, I do because they are my children and I love spending ANY time I can get with them.
If she asks if she can "take" them when it's my time with them for a family event of hers, I do so without as much as a peep.
However, she's petty in the respects that when we attend one of our childrens sporting events, if it's not my weekend/week night with them, she does not allow the child not participating to come over and say hi to me. Her reason is that "the last game (I) had them I wouldn't let them come talk to (her)".
In my humble defense, after I'd gotten over my resentment, in the first few years after our divorce, of her and the man she wants to replace me as a father figure with, I'd practically have to shove the boys to go say hi to her.
Tonight was no exception, on her part.
Our youngest son had a flag football game and as usual, I went to watch. Nothing abnormal there.
About fifteen minutes in, my ex showed up with our other son, and met up with her husband.
I'd had my back to where they came in and I'd not had seen them if it weren't for the fact that they walked right by me. Well, within ten paces of me.
My oldest son, for the second week in a row, walked right by where I was without even an acknowledgement of seeing me! And to put the cap on things, he never once came over, again.
Now, I could have gone over to where they were (again), put myself in their court (again), and said hello to my child. But realize how I felt, when even after discussing with him how it hurt me when he didn't at least say hi in passing, that my own flesh and blood would ignore me, again.
Some would say "don't blame him" and "it's his mother's fault" but that doesn't lessen the pain of having one's child ignore you in public.
*Just as a side note, our divorce decree states we have joint-custody but after a failed attempt to gain 50/50 placement upon their moving back to the same town, my ex acts and treats me as if she holds the key to the golden crapper.
I chose to stay in this town after my children were moved back. Foregoing any possibility of pursuing my own interests and possibly creating a better situation for myself (with a trickle down of benefits onto my children) only to be snubbed by my own son that I stayed for??
It's enough to make a man rethink his entire life and the choices he's made and wonder what's it all been for.
On a final side note:I'd left as soon as the game was over, basically fuming and being pissy and decided to hit Subway on the way home.
After parking and walking towards the store, I noticed the mother of my daughter (that's for another entry sometime) getting out with her youngest daughter.
Now, this caught me off guard as she lives about 30 minutes south of here and I never expected to see her in my town.
Being naturally polite (which is why I think I get tromped on a LOT), I said "Hi (name withheld)".
She didn't even bat an eye but said 'hello' anyway as she was getting her child out of the car.
I can only assume it was my daughter sitting in the passenger seat, but they followed me into Subway (minus girl in question).
Talk about awkward!!!
Now, for my rant on my ex:
I've been divorced since 2000 and my ex-wife treats me with the same disrespect and ill-regard as she did back then.
To recap:she moved 10 hours away with our children and married the guy (twice her age) she met online. Since then she's considered him the boys father and created a role for me as the big-brother.
I, like a good friend of mine, will accomodate the ex when it comes to the children, and never expect anything in return (basically because one would be expecting for quite some time).
If she wants me to take them when I'm not scheduled to, I do because they are my children and I love spending ANY time I can get with them.
If she asks if she can "take" them when it's my time with them for a family event of hers, I do so without as much as a peep.
However, she's petty in the respects that when we attend one of our childrens sporting events, if it's not my weekend/week night with them, she does not allow the child not participating to come over and say hi to me. Her reason is that "the last game (I) had them I wouldn't let them come talk to (her)".
In my humble defense, after I'd gotten over my resentment, in the first few years after our divorce, of her and the man she wants to replace me as a father figure with, I'd practically have to shove the boys to go say hi to her.
Tonight was no exception, on her part.
Our youngest son had a flag football game and as usual, I went to watch. Nothing abnormal there.
About fifteen minutes in, my ex showed up with our other son, and met up with her husband.
I'd had my back to where they came in and I'd not had seen them if it weren't for the fact that they walked right by me. Well, within ten paces of me.
My oldest son, for the second week in a row, walked right by where I was without even an acknowledgement of seeing me! And to put the cap on things, he never once came over, again.
Now, I could have gone over to where they were (again), put myself in their court (again), and said hello to my child. But realize how I felt, when even after discussing with him how it hurt me when he didn't at least say hi in passing, that my own flesh and blood would ignore me, again.
Some would say "don't blame him" and "it's his mother's fault" but that doesn't lessen the pain of having one's child ignore you in public.
*Just as a side note, our divorce decree states we have joint-custody but after a failed attempt to gain 50/50 placement upon their moving back to the same town, my ex acts and treats me as if she holds the key to the golden crapper.
I chose to stay in this town after my children were moved back. Foregoing any possibility of pursuing my own interests and possibly creating a better situation for myself (with a trickle down of benefits onto my children) only to be snubbed by my own son that I stayed for??
It's enough to make a man rethink his entire life and the choices he's made and wonder what's it all been for.
On a final side note:I'd left as soon as the game was over, basically fuming and being pissy and decided to hit Subway on the way home.
After parking and walking towards the store, I noticed the mother of my daughter (that's for another entry sometime) getting out with her youngest daughter.
Now, this caught me off guard as she lives about 30 minutes south of here and I never expected to see her in my town.
Being naturally polite (which is why I think I get tromped on a LOT), I said "Hi (name withheld)".
She didn't even bat an eye but said 'hello' anyway as she was getting her child out of the car.
I can only assume it was my daughter sitting in the passenger seat, but they followed me into Subway (minus girl in question).
Talk about awkward!!!
Sunday, October 02, 2005
A friend of mine recently sent me the following email. It is one of those writings that gets forwarded among the masses.
In light of the many perversions and jokes we send to one another for a
laugh, this is a little different: This is not intended to be a joke, it's
not funny, it's intended to get you thinking.
Billy Graham's daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane
Clayson asked her "How could God let something like this happen?"
(regarding the attacks on Sept. 11).
Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She
said, "I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for
years we've been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our
government and to get out of our lives.
And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out. How
can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand
He leave us alone?"
In light of recent events...terrorists attack, school shootings, etc. I
think it started when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body
found recently) complained she didn't want prayer in our schools, and we
said OK.
Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school . the Bible
says thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as
yourself. And we said OK.
Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't spank our children when they
misbehave because their little personalities would be warped and we might
damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide). We said an
expert should know what he's talking about. And we said OK.
Now we're asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they
don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother them to kill
strangers, their classmates, and themselves.
Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it
out. I think it has a great deal to do with "WE REAP WHAT WE SOW."
Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the
world's going to hell. Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but
question what the Bible says.
Funny how you can send 'jokes' through e-mail and they spread like
wildfire but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people
think twice about sharing.
Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through
cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and
workplace.
Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on
your address list because you're not sure what they believe, or what they
WILL think of you for sending it. Funny how we can be more worried about
what other people think of us than what God thinks of us.
Here's what I think. It in no way is meant to offend anyone.
I think our belief system is f*cked.
Basically, we as humans have passed down the stories of Christ and for the most part have kept it true to origins.
I get asked occassionally what I believe.
"Do you believe in God?"
"Do you believe in Heaven?"
"Do you believe in Life after Death?" believe...............
See, that's the key word. believe...............
Truth is a belief system was never instilled in me growing up. I like to think I followed more of a "show me" mentality. I was always searching for tangible proof, in anything.
I did attend a few church services in my youth, but was not impressed. Every one chanting words like they were automotons. No passion in what they were saying. Sounding like they didn't believe what they were saying.
Now, I'm not saying none of what is stated in the Bible didn't happen. Quite the contrairy.
Just some creative writing was done to keep the reader interested.
Too many people want to use religion as a crutch as stated in the above forwarded email and not realize that things happen. And when we don't like it we blame it on the absence of a belief system created who knows how long ago.
If you want to believe in something then go ahead. There's nothing wrong with that. Just don't put ALL your faith into it. Take some responsibility.
(This will probably be my one and only time I get out the giant spoon and stir things up)
In light of the many perversions and jokes we send to one another for a
laugh, this is a little different: This is not intended to be a joke, it's
not funny, it's intended to get you thinking.
Billy Graham's daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane
Clayson asked her "How could God let something like this happen?"
(regarding the attacks on Sept. 11).
Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She
said, "I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for
years we've been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our
government and to get out of our lives.
And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out. How
can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand
He leave us alone?"
In light of recent events...terrorists attack, school shootings, etc. I
think it started when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body
found recently) complained she didn't want prayer in our schools, and we
said OK.
Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school . the Bible
says thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as
yourself. And we said OK.
Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't spank our children when they
misbehave because their little personalities would be warped and we might
damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide). We said an
expert should know what he's talking about. And we said OK.
Now we're asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they
don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother them to kill
strangers, their classmates, and themselves.
Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it
out. I think it has a great deal to do with "WE REAP WHAT WE SOW."
Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the
world's going to hell. Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but
question what the Bible says.
Funny how you can send 'jokes' through e-mail and they spread like
wildfire but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people
think twice about sharing.
Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through
cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and
workplace.
Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on
your address list because you're not sure what they believe, or what they
WILL think of you for sending it. Funny how we can be more worried about
what other people think of us than what God thinks of us.
Here's what I think. It in no way is meant to offend anyone.
I think our belief system is f*cked.
Basically, we as humans have passed down the stories of Christ and for the most part have kept it true to origins.
I get asked occassionally what I believe.
"Do you believe in God?"
"Do you believe in Heaven?"
"Do you believe in Life after Death?" believe...............
See, that's the key word. believe...............
Truth is a belief system was never instilled in me growing up. I like to think I followed more of a "show me" mentality. I was always searching for tangible proof, in anything.
I did attend a few church services in my youth, but was not impressed. Every one chanting words like they were automotons. No passion in what they were saying. Sounding like they didn't believe what they were saying.
Now, I'm not saying none of what is stated in the Bible didn't happen. Quite the contrairy.
Just some creative writing was done to keep the reader interested.
Too many people want to use religion as a crutch as stated in the above forwarded email and not realize that things happen. And when we don't like it we blame it on the absence of a belief system created who knows how long ago.
If you want to believe in something then go ahead. There's nothing wrong with that. Just don't put ALL your faith into it. Take some responsibility.
(This will probably be my one and only time I get out the giant spoon and stir things up)
Saturday, October 01, 2005
Family reunion
Last weekend, I and my two boys went with my mom to see her brother and sister in Northwest Missouri. It's the second 'vacation' I've taken with my sons in the last four months.
The last time I saw my uncle was about four years ago when I met him halfway to drop off my mom for her vacation. As for my aunt, it was five six years ago at my wedding.
She brought her son (whom I last saw when he was in diapers) and her husband, and one of my uncles children was there with his family. He also was last seen in diapers. Needless to say, it's been a while!
We swam in my unc's pool, fished in his private pond, and as for the cousins, we just got reaquainted.
On our drive home, my mom quipped,"I wonder if (Devin's) wife has a sister?".
oy..............everything turns into her trying to get me a woman!
The last time I saw my uncle was about four years ago when I met him halfway to drop off my mom for her vacation. As for my aunt, it was five six years ago at my wedding.
She brought her son (whom I last saw when he was in diapers) and her husband, and one of my uncles children was there with his family. He also was last seen in diapers. Needless to say, it's been a while!
We swam in my unc's pool, fished in his private pond, and as for the cousins, we just got reaquainted.
On our drive home, my mom quipped,"I wonder if (Devin's) wife has a sister?".
oy..............everything turns into her trying to get me a woman!
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