Nice guys.........

.....blada blada blada (Thanx DC!).

You know the old adage. And it seems to be true in my case.
I don't know what it is:either I pick the wrong ones, or there's something dramatically wrong w/me.

There was one girl back in high school that was very nice and nice to me. Buy ya know:girls mature sooner than guys. By the time I figured it out, it was too late.

Those that know me, know I've been divorced since 2005. In succession, those who know me say it was a long time coming, the best thing that could have happened to me.
I guess they're right, as the only reason I stayed w/her was for the fact that we had two wonderful sons together.
I tried to make it work but her personality was just too much for me (or anyone that knew her) to handle.

Since becoming divorced, I had two longer term relations, and dated a few other women short term.
All ended the same:there was something wrong with them.
Either they were still floundering from their own divorce either monetarily or emotionally, had serious issues, or just wanted "a jerk",(you know the types:gals that stay w/their a**hole boyfriends just because they are too scared to leave them).

So, living in the small town I do, trying to meet new, decent women leaves much to desire.
Either they're already married, involved, or way too young to even consider. Which leads to the online dating services. This endevor opens itself up to all SORTS of comments from a local friend of mine. Someone's gotta entertain him.

These sites promise making "finding the love of your life" sooooooooo much easier. Sure, easy if you have a credit card. I do not. (thanx to the divorce). Next there are the free sites. No credit card required, ever!
These seem to be the least used sites, either that or noone ever responds to MY emails.

Sure, there are plenty of area women looking for a mate on these sites, but again, who knows if or how often they use these sites. I sure don't.

So here I sit......broken hearted................blada........blada........blada..............

Weddings..............

This weekend, I was in a good friends wedding. I say 'good friend' because I did what any good friend would do when asked to stand up at one's wedding:try to talk him out of it!

He and his bride have been together for nearly four years. They had only one instant where they split, for nearly a month, only to mutually decide they belong together. All together now:aaaaaaawwwwwwwwww.

Having been down that road before, only to have it blow up in my face, I will admit that it was a lovely ceremony.
It was quick, to the point, and included his two children into the service.
As I stood there listening to the Priestess (yep:it was a gal), I began to see my two friends as they should be:together at last. And it kinda made me a bit misty and almost, I say ALMOST wish I were doing it again.

There's something about attending a wedding whether it be standing up for someone, or sitting in the congregation in a mass witness that brings out feelings that seem to only come out during a wedding.
I can only speak from experience, that after the ceremony it all changes. We forget what we have just shared with that special someone and revert to just plain silliness. It seems that too many of us are afflicted with this and that's why the divorce rate is so high.

If we can truly find "that special person" and remember on a daily basis those feelings we feel during the cermony, the world would truly be a better place.

"Batman Begins" has begun!!

I've been looking forward to this movie ever since I heard it was being made.
The idea that someone was taking the time to make a Batman movie surrounding the creation of the icon was just too much!

In the onset, I was unsure of how well it would be, but with the cast named and a 'batmobile like no other' held my curiosity.

I took my two boys tonight. We were in full Bat-glory as each of us had a bat-shirt of somesort or other on.
Yes, I am a Bat-geek and wear my cape and cowl with pride!

The movie lived up to it's promise of being like no other Batman movie.
Even though the run time was 2 hours 10 minutes, we left the theater wanting more. As a Bat-fan, I personally was not let down. The way the movie focused on Bruce Wayne becoming Batman was intriguing. Sure, we all know the story:Bruce witnesses his parents murder, he grows up feeling responsible for their death, is heir to the Wayne throne, uses his clout to create a symbol of justice, blada blada blada.

But this movie shows this story line in such a way that it is more conceivable that it could really happen to one of us. The movie has little to none 'campyness' so we the audience believe that Bruce Wayne really could exist.

For me, Batman is the greatest super hero ever simply because Bruce Wayne has no super powers, but only a mind that is honed, gadgets galore, and truly believes in what he is doing for the good of mankind.

Summer fun

I picked up my boys yesterday for the first 'leg' of our six week summer time together.
Both boys are involved in one form of baseball or another.
My 8 year old is in his second and final year of tee-ball, while his older brother, 10, is in his second of three years with a pitching machine.

The older boys team is awesome this year with a 7 win 1 loss record with three games to go.
It's exciting to watch both games, even though we make an entire night of it!

We will enjoy swimming, walks, bike rides, movies (Batman Begins begun!!),and maybe some camping thrown in for good measure.

Honest question

Ok, so, for my first entry, I figured I'd make it a doozie.

Long story short:I was married w/children, now divorced w/children.
My ex moved 3 states away to be with the man she met online, taking our children.
Five years later, she and her husband (guy from the 'net) moved back here buying a house.

I took her back into the court system under a 'considerable change of circumstances' only to be knocked down by the court system.

Now; I am to begin the first section of my summer time w/my boys.
In the past, she's gotten them a pool pass. This summer, she says she will send the passes (consisting of patches sewn on their swim trunks) IF I contribute to the purchase price.
As I've said, in the past, she's purchased them and sent them with the boys to use during their time w/me.
But, due to her husband losing his job a few months back (even though he has a new one now), she doesn't feel it's fair for her to buy the passes, for them to use during my time unless I give her money.

Why is it, child support never seems to be enough? Even though she enjoys 3 incomes (hers, her husbands, and a substantial portion of mine), she feels it necessesary to play this power struggle?